Working women: shaking the foundation

In our modern day America, mainly over the past 50 years, the traditional roles of men and women have been drastically switched or distorted. Men are no longer viewed as the primary leaders and do not take work and leadership as seriously. Women are no longer just the homemakers, but more than often set a competition against men in the areas of work and employment.

I have nothing against young women working and being educated in a job to insure an income while single, and also the ability to work should anything happen to her husband. But when she feels such an obligation and love for her job that she would forsake even the idea of (heaven forbid!) having children and caring for them, this is where America’s foundations begin to weaken. It all starts in the home; from the moment of birth (providing someone was actually born!), an individual’s primary training, nurture and growth happens in the home.

When we encourage women to compete against the men (let’s show those guys we can work just as well as they can!), we allow them to foster disgusted, distant ideas towards mothering children and maintaining a home. If all women were so dedicated to their job that children would become such a menace, well, there would be no children, and thus no country. And if all women were so dedicated to their job that any children accepted would be cared for day after day at a daycare center, then there would be very poor and weak future leadership in this country.

Max Haine in his book “Children: Blessing or burden?” summed it up pretty well when taking a look at a women’s most natural lifelong role:

“Those whose most innate sense of identity is bound up with fertility were encouraged to abandon, delay or at least severely limit childbearing. They were asked to deny their deepest biological and psychological urges toward maternity for the sake of a paycheck. They were told to rejoice at “liberation” from the home, which their ancestors gained deep satisfaction in maintaining. In other words, they were supposed to squash every feminine impulse that pulsated for expression.” (Italics added)

I’m not a feminist, and I’m not a sheltered, conforming future baby machine. I am a young lady who has witnessed the blessings and fulfillment of bringing up the future generations, and maintaining their home. So what are my future plans? I have nothing against women getting jobs outside the home. I have one right now, and I plan to work as long as I am single. But when God brings around the right guy at the right time, I will be ready to give up my job and carry out what I was meant to be: a homemaker.

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  1. Mirka
    Mirka July 20, 2008 at 1:20 am |

    Leader of the Christian Party at Finland is a working mother (also a medical doctor). Her husband (a pastor, Th.D.) chose willingly stay at home with their five children, he actually proposed it to her. And they are more devoted christians than average Lutherans here.

    I think it is a cultural thing. We are a small nation and living here is expensive. Recent study tells that food price here is twice as expensive than it is in US. Second income is usually more than welcome because salaries are also quite low comparing to – for example – US salaries. Men staying at home with children isn’t a feminist issue here, they are not forced nor pushed or even expected to do that, it is a matter of their will. It is not seen as a feministic thing here either. Goverment pays allowance for maternity leave, parental leave (for mother/father) and paternity leave.

    I have quite mixed feelings when it comes to these so-called Mummy Wars. We have a saying here which roughly translates: “debaters don’t argue, only subjects” meaning that we should and need to discuss about opinions but they shouldn’t make a insuperable matter between two people. I can try to understand different point of views even if I don’t agree with them. And I can’t evaluate anyone’s godliness according to their choises, they must be sometimes hard and probably well considered.

    I had a normal Finnish childhood. My mother was at home till my younger brother started school when he was 7yo. Finnish public school is many ways different than public schools in US and homeschooling is very rare here. Religion is taught at schools because of our state religion (Lutheranism and Orthodox) and schools are usually small. Me and my brothers went to a little village school and in my school time there were some 50 pupils altogether in school grades 1-6. I had happy, stable, (lower) middle-class childhood. Maybe I would see working mother/stay at home mother -situation differently if I had lived in another culture.

    I keep on reading about this subject. Your posts have been very thought-provoking 🙂

    – mirka

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